My Blog Week: April 17 to April 23
A Word on the Week
Badmouthing, belittling, rudeness face-to-face, campaigning in the background to make a targeted person feel bad, or deny that person opportunities, are not the behaviors of good people. A good person is kind, fair, and honorable. A kind, fair, and honorable person does not receive or distribute gossip, does not accept or make an unproven diagnosis (what I call She Disease, as in “She’s this…”, “She’s that…”). If a good person feels at odds with someone, she gauges the validity of her feelings first. If she can craft a well-articulated position, she knows she must address it to the other person; and if she recognizes either that she can’t justify her feelings, or isn’t willing to confront that person, she—fairly and honorably—tells herself: “I’m not entitled to anything here. I’ll have to give it up.”
Good people don’t brood on wrongs and wait for vengeance. Political and social media trolls get around this problem by posing as perpetual victims, exploiting the goodwill of others. The way to make aggression and paranoia comfortable, in ego terms, and in the seeking of allies, is to make it a question of “fairness”; fairness defined as what others owe to you the victim. There’s no kindness here, because kindness has the aspects of bearing things with good humor, and of lending a helping hand when possible. There’s no honor, because honorable people don’t complain about, they speak respectfully to.
The Sacred Victim is a legacy of an old world order, chiefly a white and Christian world order, where the positions of classes and races were not questioned. Social leaders, as God’s anointed, were meant to be charitable. This is where the “not punching down” idea comes from, and the source of its weakness. If you are happy to place yourself high, you can employ assumed power to not harm the low—as from the high seat you deem both lowness and harm. We’ve seen with the mask and vaccine controversies, and the alleged “forgotten man” who needs so much catering to, that victim-fakers can slip in easily, where accountability is counted victimizing in itself.
In the state of Ohio, I’ve seen a phenomenon for a long time. I assume other GOP strongholds, like Texas and Florida, have it too…
That is, the referring in political messages, and the pitching of ads to, “real” Ohioans. The seeking, in journalism, of the real Ohioan’s opinion—how the famous rustbelt diner story arose. To farm or to work at an Archie Bunker-era blue collar job, doesn’t make one citizen realer than the rest. New immigrants are real. Old-timers are real. Families are real, and the Lone (a sizeable constituency, undeserving of the bigotry we receive), who are not going to marry and have children, are real. The fattest cat is real, and the most penniless vagabond is real.
But in politics, since the propaganda boom began, the Real [fill in blank] has been made untouchable. Their voice is heard, at the expense of shoving aside everyone else’s. Due to sacred victimhood, they sit unasked to thread out an argument logically, to do unto others, or answer for the harm of their bad choices.
On Monday, a new post of the short story (or it may grow into a long story) “Depression Glass”, Merrilee having business with her boyfriend’s uncle. Tuesday, The Sword Decides!, Montferrat and Mastracchio winding up their own business, of getting Ludovic into a definite position. Thursday, “Nedforum”, Anton thinking through his resentment, to what Jovie’s message means. Friday, The Mirrors, and Charmante’s first encounter with the science of her employer.
Images on my posts sometimes have a link to related information (click first image), sometimes serious, sometimes whimsical, sometimes in answer to a direct reference. Since people can be leery about links, I include them here: what they are, what sites they point to.
My Blog Week: April 17 to April 23